I was having lunch with a friend this past week and sharing a story. I got to a point in the story where I wanted to use the words 'coffee table'. The only problem was that I couldn't think of the words. I used my finger to draw it at our lunch table and she guessed what I was talking about.
OK...so this isn't the first time that's happened. When I was younger some friends would tell me I had a mind like a 'steel trap'. Well, the trap door has opened itself and things are escaping.
I told my friend how this lack of recall frustrates me and she was kind enough to re-frame it for me. She said...that in the scheme of my entire life, not being able to recall a word here and there was really insignificant. Perhaps the space that word occupied was replaced by something new I had learned. A new place card, so to speak. Whew. This helped me see this in a different way not only at that moment, but I filed it away for future scenarios.
When we become occasionally frustrated with our behaviors or approaches, it might be a good practice to re-frame things for ourselves. And in the process reset some expectations. Be kinder to ourselves. Have more self-compassion. Because we would do it for a friend...why not for ourselves as well.