n the Oscars last night, a woman won (in a category I can’t remember!) who didn’t expect to be the recipient of one of her industry’s prized gold statues. She was the first African American…Read More
I saw this title of a WSJ post today…
And my initial thought was…
Sometimes I wish I was UNimprovable and INdestructable.
Usually this happens when I feel like I’ve been put through the ringer for one reason or another. Or maybe it’s just because I’m getting older. But there are days when I really don’t feel like improving and i really wish I could be indestructable for just awhile.
Whatever the reason, sometimes I wish.
I was on the road last week and and saw this post on BBC travel entitled “Why The French Don’t Show Excitement”. BBC does a great job with their headlines and this one tickled my fancy…regardless of how any of us may feel about the French and emotions.
But early in the article there was a quote from a French teacher that gave me pause for thought. Mostly because it spoke to the hectic, never ending tasks and unrelenting busy lives we have created for ourselves. So here it is…
“You Americans,” he said, “live in the faire [to do]. The avoir [to have]. In France, we live in the être [to be].”
If we could only learn to do and have less, we could actually simply be.
I was a networking meeting with my tribe, and someone made a comment about how busy they were and many thoughts were running through their head on a regular basis.
Neuroscience tells us we have 50,000-60,000 thoughts a day. Anywhere from ‘Should I floss or not?’ to ‘Where can I go on my next vacation? to ;Should I have this surgery?’.
Then another person chimed in and said ‘You know, when I stop to think about it most of the conversations I have in a day are…with myself.’
The question is…what kind of answers do you get? And do those answers serve you?
Just a thought.
Do you know what ‘bikeshedding’ is?
That makes two of us.
I ran across this term while researching some information for one of my online classes. So of course, I looked it up and it means…
*The act of wasting time on trivial details while important matters are inadequately attended.
So I asked myself...how often do I practice ‘bikeshedding’? I had to have a sit-down talk with myself on some things that had come to my attention about how I was actually spending my time. My time that was never coming back. I then realized what it was costing me at all kinds of levels and decided there were things I needed to give up right away including…
- Pretending like I was going to work what was important later
- Trying to convince myself that this work was more important than what really was important
- Getting psyched about feeling like I had really accomplished something important…not
- Just giving in to the brainlessness of it all
Not a pretty list. But honest.
So what did I do? I became uber clear about what was the most important thing I needed to work on every morning, before turning on the computer…even if it took hours. And then I actually did that thing.
Amazing what can happen when motivation, focus and proactive behavior has a happy dance together.
*This term originates from Parkinson's observation of a committee organized to approve plans for a nuclear power plant. As Parkinson noted, the committee devoted a disproportionate amount of time to relatively unimportant details -- such as the materials for a bicycle storage shed -- which limited the time available to focus on the design of the nuclear plant. Source.
I read something the other day about intrinsic motivation. Yes, you can set up all kinds of enticements, rewards, prizes...extrinsic things...but the long term holding power of what you're wanting to do simply doesn'tRead More
A friend of mine came to visit earlier this month. I won't call her an 'old' friend because we aren't old. That's a state of mind. But she's been a dear friend since 1972. Long time. I hadn't seen her in about 10 years so I was looking forward to having my 'sister' visit.
The truth is, we picked up right where we left off.
We started talking andRead More
This was a different type of Thanksgiving.
My brother survived open heart surgery.
On the same day my cousin welcomed his first new grandson into the world.
Later that same day a dear friend lost her grown daughter after a battle with illness.
So I am thankful for… all the doctors and nurses who work so hard to save and bring life into this world.
I am thankful for… the support of friends who were there when I needed them.
I am thankful for… the love of my family.
There’s nothing more important in life than care, compassion and love.
So be thankful.